Adoption woes

I am adopted. I am a adult adoptee

I am married and we don't have children.

I am 62 years old and I've been married 31 years.

I know there are parents who are looking to adopt but it doesn't mean that they look everywhere to find a child. It angers me because people are grouping everybody as one bad Apple.

I think it's time we listen to all sides of the story of people wanting to adopt and we would like to have children.

I looked after children for a living. I have some training and child care education.

My husband had an employment issues at the time we were wanting to have children and adopt. It was a very unsettling time for us as a couple. And It took a lot of prayer and working through being barren. Peopleeopleeople were very nasty in their comments about us having children. People were very nosy.

And I had it up to here with comments from people all over the place. We ended up getting a dog.

We have loved on our nieces and nephews and the odd young man who needed some care and attention.

I'm glad that I was adopted. My situation was different than others. My adoption was kinship adoption and my parents were asked to adopt me by my birth parents. I know that my situation was not perfect but what is perfect in life. I'm just very glad to be here and know that a problem with sorted out at the time of my birth. Yes I had anger about my situation. Yes I should have been told about my parents. It's done now and now I have to make my decision of how I respond to being adopted. I realize that there are some pretty bad situations it should be avoided and hopefully we have learned from those bad situations. But I think that we need to not categorize everybody's situation as bad people Life happens. Feel the pain and get on with life. Fill the pain deal with the pain don't shut it up off. Learn how to move on and forward. Don't get stuck , live life to the full.

And while I'm talking here I have had experiences with the church and church is not perfect. I have been treated rotten by others in the church and there are times I want to give up. Yes I pray and believe in the power of Prayer and I don't make any excuses for it. I have been a born again Christian for over 50 years. 55 to be exact. People aren't perfect and neither are you.

I heard people out spoken about why they don't have a faith in Jesus and speak against the church. The church is to blame for this the church is to blame for that. I get your concerns but is this just a way of getting out of having a faith in Jesus.

And all I can think of is what are you doing to make a difference in this world with your faith? What are you doing to change how people are treated? Why is it so important that you tell us what the church is doing wrong? What are you doing correct some of the problems that are going on.

I am ashamed of some of the things that the church is done in the name of Jesus. And that's not right. But when it comes to somebody wanting a family and they're doing it the honest way well I say good for them. They're helping families that need families. Life isn't perfect. I know what I had to say is in popular but I've listened to everybody else's ideas and so this is what I firmly believe in.

Let's build each other up in the adoptee world whether we are a family who can't have children and are adopted ourselves. Let's have some compassion.

I won't point the finger at you just remember not to point it at me and my ideas.

. I like being adopted. I know a lot of other people that like being adopted as well. We choose our attitude and I have chosen to have gratitude. I have chosen to work on my issues and I have and I love life.

Own your problem with the church own your problem with God and stop making an excuses for why you're not following God.