I have the Right!

I have the right to ask questions. The right s of adoptees. I have the right to receive Honest answers. from family and the province. I read about the The amendment right of adoptive citizens. (Is Adoption Trauma group) I smiled when I read The amendment right of adoptive citizens I breathed in a sigh of relief when I read that I have the right to ask questions about my adoption. I do? well that's great news . ! for me! I don't have to feel guilty or be shamed ! I can let go of being shamed. How things have changed. Growing up in the 1960s adopted I didn't ask questions. When I did I was met with the answer it isn't for you to know. It isn't important. Then at 30 years old. I got I don't feel free to tell you. Your sister knows about your story you can find the rest out after I die. We were trying to protect you. You might be sorry you, when you find out what who your first mother is! You have Dug up information you don't have any right to do that. I thought that I was the only one not allowed to talk about adoption . There are more rights that I have as a an adoptee and I'm overwhelmed by the list. How things have changed. And and it's nice to see that people are beginning to think differently about adoption. The old way of thinking about adoption is beginning to change as people have begun to write books and there are support groups. We have more information than we've ever had in the last 10 years. I have the right to feel my adoption. I have learned that you have to be careful who you tell How it feels to be adopted. Family are not the ones to be honest with I think family would prefer that you lied. I have seen family squirm and change the subject. But I also have people who listen and understand when I'm honest about my feelings. And at the end of the day I will tell how it feels to be adopted. I will not be silenced.. I have the right to talk to any family member that I want to talk to. And sometimes your best just not to say that you are talking to certain people. Sometimes you have to be savvy not dishonest but savvy in who you tell what you're doing when it comes to adoption. I have the right to grieve my first family people have tried to tell me to get over my first family and forget them. I have to feel to heal. I have the right to remember the effect that my adoption had on me. I have the right to remember about my beginnings. I have the right to remember and write about my experience. Knowing that I have rights in speaking about my adoption freeze me to be the person I was meant to be without being silenced. This is opened up a whole new world for me and so I will speak and I will remember and I will not listen to those who try to tell me how blessed I was to be adopted. That is my decision to make as an adult. I also have the right to my attitude, And sometimes my attitude is not what people would expect. Sometimes I'm angry. And I'm very honest. This has been a freeing blog for me.