I own My journey to healing in Adoption

What helped me in my adoption journey

As many of you know my adoption was kinship.

I had similar experiences but with the twist of Kinship adoption.

Kinship adoption

Push for your information

When you hear they have information push often. They are holding you hostage of your information especially at 30 something.

Do wait to contact family. Do it soon with a lot of counsel first.

Family are in denial and will ignore you speaking truth is not your fault.

It's just not going to happen.

Listen to your heart not to your family.

Only you know how you feel about being adopted by another family member. Too bad how your adopted parents felt.

You are entitled to your feelings and opinions.

Anger doesn't disappear over night. Don't let anyone mistreat you into thinking that you need to. Especially if you are working on it.

Don't believe anyone who says that you don't have any thing to be angry with.

Again this is a form of control . If you are angry be angry and don't deny anger.

Even if you think you know your relative do not send them your story.

Don't ask for your identity to be made public. Just do it.

You have the right to tell your story Be creative in telling your story.

Grieve the loss of kinship family trees.

Think of the relative in relationship that now you now have as birth mother to create a relationship. Now aunt /sibling.

Make sure everyone knows that you are no longer a secret.

What happened before birth and after is not your fault.

This truth has brought freedom.

Remember being adopted in Kinship placement means life is different not always better.

Deal with emotions as they come.

Legal Paper kinship best friend. Don't let family tell you how Happy your folk were.

Your adoption doesn't define you. I have chosen to live life in the present.

I will have hiccups in being adopted (issues) deal with the issue right away.

Do not stuff feelings down.

Comes up. Let them out!