Is Adoption Trauma

Being separated at birth who you have been close to for 9 months and then they are gone is like a death. A disconnection has happened.

I remember the grief I felt when one of my parents passed away. I was in shock.

Life happens! Circumstances planned and not planned happens! Death of a parent, sickness and drug addiction and financial loss

In a perfect world children would stay with their family.

Life is not Perfect!

People make wrong choices and they have consequences.

There are times when a family member or childless couples can step in to see a child a good home.

Children do not come with instructions.

I was a caregiver for 6 years.

It is hard work and not for the faint of heart!

There are challenges to being a adoptive parent! that parents don't have.

• Fit in to family

• History background heritage is different

• Rejection issues

• Identity

I am a adoptee. I know both sides of the

coin in being adopted and wanting to adopt.

My parents gave aid to my mother in a time of need. My parents were not looking to adopt. My husband and I had infertility issues. Adoption was thought of. We love children. I had child care experience and education. We had love to offer. We knew the challenges of parenting. I knew first hand about being adopted.

I think that if adult have been screened and a police check and a home study is done they foster care and education is given a child can be adequately cared for. It is not the best situation to be away from birth family but for a lot of families it is important to think about the child's welfare.

Communication is important in adopted families.

Honesty helps in raising a child.

Letting the child know what happened and answer the questions about their before adoption.

I am glad for my adoption experience. My life was different but not better.

Sadness comes when I think of my birth family. I have grieved the loss of my birth family. I struggled with what happened but I come to accept what happened to me and carry on.

My adoption does not define me God does.